Completion Letter Worksheet
When someone we love passes away or a relationship ends, we’re often left with unspoken words and unresolved emotions, which can make it difficult to move forward in our grief. The Completion Letter is a meaningful tool for processing these unfinished feelings, helping us find a sense of closure and healing.
In this letter, you’ll write to the person you explored in your Relationship Graph, expressing the thoughts and emotions that remain unshared. Use the recovery categories—Apologies, Forgiveness, and Significant Emotional Statements—as a guide, drawing on any messages that surfaced during the Relationship Graph or Undelivered Messages activities.
Structure of the Completion Letter
Your letter will include three main sections:
Apologies. Begin by offering any apologies for things you feel may have hurt this person. Expressing these apologies allows you to release lingering guilt or regret.
Examples: “I’m sorry for not being there when you needed me.” “I’m sorry for the times I hurt you with my words.”
Forgiveness. Extend forgiveness for anything they may have done or said that caused you pain. This step is about freeing yourself from unresolved hurt.
Examples: “I forgive you for not understanding me.” “I forgive you for the times you let me down.”
Significant Emotional Statements. Finally, share anything else you wish to convey—feelings, regrets, gratitude, or other unfinished sentiments. This is an opportunity to express what you most want them to know.
Examples: “I want you to know how much I loved you.” “I wish we had more time together.”
Guidelines for Writing the Letter
Keep It Brief. Aim for 2-3 pages to maintain focus and clarity.
Take Your Time. Set aside about an hour of uninterrupted time for writing. Allow yourself to fully express what’s in your heart.
Focus on Completion, Not Perfection. Don’t worry if topics overlap across categories. The goal is to release what feels unfinished.
Goodbye. You have the choice in how you would like to close the letter, such as “I miss you, I love you, goodbye” or “I have to let go of this pain.”
Example.
Dear [Person’s Name],
I’ve been reflecting on our relationship, and there are things I want to share with you.
I apologize that I Didn’t listen to you when you were sharing you life story. I wish I could of known you more.
I forgive you that you were frustrated and upset when I was struggling at school. You were worried for my future and well being.
Those moments that you would drive me to school or take me to the gym were important. I learned a lot from you during our conversations.
Goodbye,
[Your Name]
